First you should take a self-image inventory. Jot down all the positive things you can think of about yourself. Also list the negative things. By listing what you like most and least about yourself, you will gain an awareness of your strengths - and our weaknesses won't seem so overwhelming.

Change those things that you do not like about yourself. If you are like most people, your list will contain comments like "I smoke too much," and "I'm too impulsive." In almost all instances, the negative traits are habits which can be changed.

Many times we allow negative thoughts to influence our actions. Negative thinking doesn't do any good, it just hold us back from accomplishing many of the things we are capable of. When a negative thought creeps in, the best way to deal with it is to remind ourselves of the positive aspects in your lives such as our strengths and talents. While we may not consciously be aware of it, a negative attitude can affect our self image and the way we feel and think about ourselves as well as the people around us.

Some people say that a trip to the store or mall gives them a lift. You can always buy yourself a new article of clothing or some other treat. Consider it a reward and tell yourself that you are rewarding "you" for some of those past accomplishments no one else seemed to notice.

How good a salesman are you? You need to work at selling yourself. When you focus attention on your best qualities and bring them to others' attention, you reinforce your feeling of self-worth. Remind yourself or your areas of competence.

Forget about the past shortcomings. Many of the things that contribute to an individual's poor self-image are relics of the past. It is never too late to bury the past.

And remember to keep polishing your self-image. Spend time working on becoming a better human being. The more pleased you are with your self-improvement efforts, the happier and more successful you'll become. And in the process don't forget the importance of controlling your emotions. When faced with a difficult situation, remember that you cannot control every person and situation, but you can control your own emotions and how you feel about something.

As an example, you may be forced to work closely with someone you do not like or be asked to do a job you dislike. If you let your personal feelings get in the way, it will only hurt you and your productivity. Instead, find a positive trait in the other person or concentrate on a positive outcome to the difficult situation. Think about the rewards you may get for finishing the work early or doing an exceptional job. That way you can turn a negative emotion into a positive one.